Washington, Summer 2001, IDiscount Price, Children's Rights Council, Ernie Ashworth, Hadassah Luther, David L. Levy, Robert Schwebel, fathers, President David L. Levy, child development, Catherine Meyer, Census Bureau, British Embassy, Bettye Ashworth, Child Advocacy, Kent Weaver Haskins, Ronald K. Henry, Temporary Assistance to Needy Families, Richard A. Warshak, Ron Henry, psychological parent, NICHD Early Child Care Research Network, overnights, James A. Levine, Maggie Gallagher, National Center for Health Statistics, Michael E. Lamb, AMEX, child support, welfare reform legislation, psychoanalytic theories, Welfare Reform, America, Fred Thompson U.S. Senator, Washington Post, Greater Washington, D.C., Michael L. Oddenino Arcadia, California, Parenting Education, Washington Wizards, Stepfamily Association of America, Joint Custody Association Los Angeles, California, CRC College, California, University of California, California Dispute Resolution Institute, Bob Graham U.S. Senator, Ron Haskins, Sonny Burmeister, Willee Lewis, Julie Maggiacomo, Jessica Brooks, Syracuse University, Actor Santa Monica, California, Samantha Shapiro, Strengthening Families, Spokesperson Hadassah Luther
Vol. 16 No. 2 Strengthening Families Through Education And Advocacy
ISSN 1042-3559 Assisting Children of Separated, Divorced, and Never-Married Parents
The Quarterly Newsletter of the Children's Rights Council, Inc. 300 "I" Street N.E., Suite 401, Washington, D.C.
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IN THIS ISSUE: CRC View ...................... 4 Shared Parenting Conference Highlights ... 5 Call Us Stepfamilies, not Blended Families ........... 5 Elements of Non-Profit Fundraising .................... 6 Welfare Reform ............ 7 British Embassy Benefit Reception for CRC ........ 8 Conference Awards ....... 9 Book Nook .................. 10 Conference Snapshots . 12 Books, Videos, Buttons .................. 1320 Addt'l Findings that Overnights by Infants with Other Parent Are Fine 21 Federal Campaign ....... 22 Audio Cassette Order Form ............................ 24 Equal Parents' Week ... 25 Forgive Their Debts .... 26 Bush Issues Nat'l Child's Day Proclamation ........ 27 Bills in Congress .......... 28 Family Facts ................. 29 National Affiliate Organizations and Chapters ...................... 30 Contributors ................ 31
The Myth of The Fading Family by E.J. Dionne Jr. Washington Post
columnist Reprinted with permission from the Washington Post, Tuesday, May 22, 2001
E. J. Dionne, Jr. says Census Bureau finds 70 Percent of Families with Children are Headed by a Couple Rather than by a Single Parent You would think from reading the headlines that the mom-and-dad-and-kids family is in a state of total collapse in America. Those headlines are based on accurate reporting of certain data from the 2000 Census. But the headlines are wrong. The two-parent family is still the norm in America.
Among households with children, according to the new Census Bureau figures, 71.8% are led by married couples. That's down from 76.1% a decade ago, and 93% in 1960. So, yes, the two-parent family has had its problems in the past 40 years. But if a household includes children, the odds are early 3 to 1 that it will be led by a couple rather than a single parent. And the Census Bureau's Current Population Survey offers evidence that the decline of the twoparent family stopped in the mid-1990s. That is big, underreported--and heartening--news, especially if it is confirmed in the coming years. Between 1990 and 1996, there was a continuing decline in the proportion of households with Continued on page 3
Summer 2001 CRC College Student Interns
(l to r) Eleanor Zandstein, Susanne Bielaski, Natalia Swalnick, Jessica Brooks, Samantha Shapiro, Katherine Potter, Kelli Lydon, Ron Varga. Intern Patricia Lopez is seated at right.
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"Speak Out for Children" is published by the Children's Rights Council, Inc. Editor: David L. Levy. Contributors to this issue: Julie Maggiacomo, Al Ellis, Paul Robinson, Ken Skilling, and college student interns Susanne Bielaski, Columbus School of Law at Catholic University; Jessica Brooks, Washington University in St. Louis
, Patrica Lopez, University of California at Davis; Kelli Lydon, St. Mary's College; Katherine Potter, University of New Hampshire; Samantha Shapiro, University of Central Florida; Natalia Swalnick, Syracuse University
; Ron Varga, Bethany College; Eleanor Zandstein, University of Connecticut, who is an Israeli. Layout by Sheila Holzberger. The CRC
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step-parents, and others who are part of the family fabric, working as a team. · CRC envisions a society where laws, attitudes, and public opinon affirm that for children, "The Best Parent is Both Parents." Formed in 1985 by concerned parents who had more than 40 years collective experience
in custody reform and early childhood education, CRC has chapters in 32 states and four national affiliate organizations: Mothers Without Custody (MW/OC), The Stepfamily Association of America (SAA), COMAMAS, and Parenting Coalition International, Inc. Prominent professionals in the fields of religion, law, social work, psychology, child care, education, business, and government comprise our Family Advisory Board.
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OFFICERS AND BOARD MEMBERS David L. Levy, Esq. President John L. Bauserman, Jr., Chairman Samuel A. Brunelli, CEO Ingrid Bough-Bell John L. Bauserman, Sr. Teresa L. Kaiser, J.D. Judge Richard A. Waldron (ret'd) Lee Yarborough HONORARY PRESIDENT Catherine Meyer, author, wife of the British Ambassador to the U.S. GENERAL COUNSEL Michael L. Oddenino Arcadia, California DIR. OF CHILD ACCESS SERVICES Alfred Ellis OFFICE MANAGER Julie Maggiacomo CHILD SPOKESPERSON: Hadassah Luther, age 13 GRANDPARENT SPOKESPERSONS: Ernie Ashworth, Member, Grand Ole Opry, and Bettye Ashworth
NATIONAL SPOKESPERSONS: Gerald A. Boarman, Ed.D., Academic Education, Maryland and North Carolina
Judge Eugene N. Hamilton (ret'd), the Judiciary, Washington, D.C. Elizabeth Hickey, M.S.W., Parenting Education, Salt Lake City, Utah Jayne A. Major, Ph.D., Breakthrough Parenting, Los Angeles Dwight Twilley, Pop Singer/Author, Tulsa, OK Wes Unseld, VP Washington Wizards, Member, NBA Hall of Fame, Parenting Education, Washington, D.C. Audrey Wise, Ed.D., M.A., Family Counselor/Mediator, New York City EVALUATORS OF RESEARCH John Guidubaldi, D.Ed. D. Richard Kuhn FAMILY ADVISORY BOARD Chairman, Clifton Alan Clark, Sr. former CRC Director of Development
ADVISORS Rabbi Mendel Abrams, D.Min. Former President, Board of Rabbis of Greater Washington, DC Eloise Anderson The Claremont Institute Sacramento, California David Birney, Actor Santa Monica, California Hon. Sherwood Boehlert U.S. Congressman (R-NY) Jim Cook, President Joint Custody Association Los Angeles, California "Dear Abby" (Abigail Van Buren) Los Angeles, California Karen DeCrow Former President of N.O.W. Jamesville, New York Elliott H. Diamond Co-Founder, CRC Reston, Virginia Phyllis Diller, Comedienne Los Angeles, California Margorie Engel, Ph.D., President Stepfamily Association of America Warren Farrell, Ph.D., Author former Member of the Board of Directors, New York City N.O.W. Leucadia, California
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Larry Gaughan, Professional Director Family Mediation of Greater Washington, D.C. Jonathan M. Goodson, President Mark Goodson Productions Los Angeles, California Hon. Bob Graham U.S. Senator (D-FL) Jennifer Isham, President Mothers Without Custody (MW/ OC) Crystal Lake, Illinois Joan B. Kelly, Ph.D. Vice-President, California dispute resolution
Institute, Corte Madera Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D. Author, Psychiatrist Scottsdale, Arizona Vicki Lansky, Author/Columnist Deephaven, Minnesota James Levine
, The Fatherhood Project The Family and Work Institute New York, New York Hon. Debbie Stabenow U.S. Senator(D-MI) Hon. Fred Thompson U.S. Senator (R-TN)
Fading Family Continued from page 1 children headed by couples. But there has been no decline since then. In fact, between 1999 and 2000, there was a modest, though perhaps statistically insignificant, increase in the proportion of households with children headed by two parents. "When you look at just two points in time," says Jason Fields, a family demographer in the Census Bureau's population division, referring to 1990 and 2000, "you miss the fact that the trends have leveled off in the late 1990s. The increase in single-mother families has really leveled off. Divorce has really leveled off." How does this square with what you've been reading and hearing? Among the typical headlines that turn up in a Web search of newspapers and broadcasts: "Is the Traditional American Family Heading towards Extinction?" and a cover line on Newsweek read "Why the Traditional Family is Fading Fast." Most of these stories focus on the decline in the proportion of all households that consist of two parents with children. Here are the numbers: · In 1960, 45% of American households consisted of married couples with kids.
· In 1970, the proportion dropped to 38.8% · In 1980, it was down to 30.8% · In 1990, it was 25.6%. · In 2000, it was 23.5%. The much repeated line, entirely true, is that for the first time, marriedcouples-with-kids families represent less than a quarter of all American Households. But notice a few things about these numbers. First, the married-coupleswith-kids homes did not constitute a majority of households even in 1960, the age of "Ozzie and Harriet" and "Fathers knows Best." That's because kids grow up and move out. Our grandparents, if they lived long enough, knew what it felt like to be "empty-nesters." Second, the big declines in the proportion of households made up of married couples with kids had already occurred by 1990. The decline in the past ten years is quite modest. People Live Longer -Many Households Don't Have Children Third, part of the decline in momand-dad-and-kids households as a proportion of the whole has to do with the fact that people are living longer. There are not a lot of people over 65 whose kids still live with them. This fact of life has nothing to do with the "decline of
the family." My mother-in-law, one of the most family-oriented people I know, lives in an apartment upstairs from one of her sons. Yet the word "household" would be counted against the family, because technically, she lives alone. None of this should diminish our concern for the difficulties faced by children in single-parent households. You don't have to be a conservative to believe that on the whole, two parents are far better than one. As Jonathan Rauch argues in the current issue of National Journal, "children raised in single parent homes are at greater risk of poverty, school dropout, delinquency, teen pregnancy and adult joblessness." We can debate how to help those kids, but we shouldn't let ideology blind us to their problems. But it would also be wrong if ideology led us to exaggerate the problem with the family in America. If the family has begun to come back together, at least a little bit we need to figure out why, and how to nurture the forces making it happen. It makes better copy and probably boosts talk-show ratings to say that the two-parent family is going the way of the Oldsmobile. The happier but more prosaic truth is that while the family does face large new challenges
, most Americans still believe that kids need two parents. And most of them still try hard to behave as they believe.
Behavior of Real-Life Dennis the Menace was not Tolerated from The Washington Post, June 1, 2001
Ketcham Father (pictured here) and Son Never Close After Parents Sent Son to Boarding School Hank Ketcham, 81, who first drew "Dennis the Menace" fifty years ago died May 31 at his home in California. Dennis was modeled after
Ketcham's first son, who was talented at getting in trouble often with his ever present slingshot. "Mischief just seemed to follow wherever Dennis appears, but it is the product of good intentions, misdirected helpfulness, good hearted generosity and, possibly, an overactive thyroid," Mr. Ketcham wrote in his 1990 autobiography, "The Merchant of Dennis the Menace". In real life, however, Mr. Ketcham was estranged from the son on whom the cartoon was based. On an autumn day in 1950, while Ketcham was working on a drawing, his young son Dennis
dismantled his bedroom, down to the mattress, springs and curtain rods. Dennis's frustrated mother declared her son a "menace" and a cartoon was inspired. The behavior of the real-life Dennis was not tolerated, and the Ketchams sent him off to a boarding school. The son and father were never close again. "Dennis has been out of my life for a number of years", Mr. Ketcham said a while ago. "it's regrettable - there's no communication. it's just one of those things..."
Summer 2001 Speak Out For Children
The CRC View by David L. Levy, J.D. President, CRC
June 28, 2001 The Honorable Wally Herger Chairman, Human Resources Subcommittee House Ways and Means Committee Washington, D.C. 20515 Hearing on Child Support and Fatherhood Proposals Statement from David L. Levy, J.D., President, CRC on behalf of the Children's Rights Council Our Children's Rights Council has been involved in proposals to strengthen families since 1985. Our proposals have led to legislative reform (including the first ever block grants to the states to promote child access/visitation to non-custodial parents), and greater awareness, through 13 CRC conferences, evaluation of data, and reports on why, for children, generally, "The Best Parent is Both Parents." Our chapters in 32 states, Washington, D.C., Europe, Asia and Africa, have also been the catalyst for improvements in children's lives. In announcing the hearing, Chairman Herger, you said that "We also will learn more about current proposals to enhance the role of fathers in their children's lives." The Children's Rights Council suggests the following: 1) A recognition that just as there are "deadbroke dads," there are also "deadbolted dads," a term coined by noted author Gail Sheehy in a New York Times article June 21, 1998. "The newer reality is the Deadbolted Dad -- locked out of his children's hearts after divorce...," said Sheehy, with "little attention paid to en-
forcing or honoring their visitation rights." Some of these parents walk-away from their children, but as Sheehy stated, many are deadbolted out. Many divorced mothers are deadbolted out, as well. CRC believes that much of this disconnect between children and previously involved married parents occurs within 2 to 3 years after the divorce, just as many never-married parents disconnect from each other a few years after the birth of the child. Remedy: An understanding of what "deadbolted dads" (and moms) means, coupled with an expansion of federal funds for mediation, counseling and other low-cost programs to promote access of children to their non-custodial parents. $10 million a year was provided in the 1996 Welfare Reform Act for access/ visitation programs, and because these activities have operated for the past four years, a total of $40 million has been spent in the states for these access programs. Each state receives about $185,000 a year, the largest federal program to date to encourage contact between children and non-custodial parents. And don't forget that there are nearly 3 million non-custodial mothers, many of whom (like many dads) are deadbolted out of their children's lives, unable to make phone or personal contact, access (visitation) interfered with or denied, the custodial parent moves far away with the child, a child is given denigrating messages by one parent against the other parent, etc. 2) A recognition that the states with the highest amount of shared parenting (including Montana, Kansas and Connecticut) subsequently had the lowest divorce rate. See data from the National Center for Health Statistics
and the Cen-
sus Bureau first reported by CRC in the Children's Rights Council newsletter, "Speak Out for Children," Vol. 12, No. 4, Fall 1997/Winter 1998 issue, available from CRC; later cited in the Indiana Law Journal, Spring 1998, Vol. 73, No. 2, by Margaret Brinig and F. Buckley, law professors at George Mason University, Fairfax, Virginia. Shared parenting (joint physical custody) is defined by researchers as at least 1/3 of the time spent between a child and a parent on a year round basis. The knowledge that parents will have to continue to be involved with each other for the sake of the child is apparently the inducement that enables some parents to avoid divorce in the years following the liberal awarding of shared parenting in their state. One of the first acts of President Bush
when he became governor of Texas was to sign a presumptive joint custody law on June 16, 1995 (see Vol. 10, No. 3 of "Speak Out for Children.") One of the remedies to help reduce the number of divorces and to increase financial child support compliance: Increase contact between children and their non-custodial moms and dads. Federal government data has shown a correlation between financial and emotional child support. 3) A recognition that "Safe Haven" Child Access Centers are helping Children and Families
. When parents appear before a judge, they sometimes disagree as to whether access (visitation) has taken place or not. So the judge will order the transfer at a "Safe Haven" if one Continued on page 6
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Shared Parenting -- It Makes Sense Theme for CRC's 13th National Conference May 4-6, 2001
Child and family advocates, researchers, writers, teachers, lawyers, judges and other individuals from more than 30 states, Great Britain, Canada, Bermuda and Iceland, attended CRC's 13th national conference May 3-6, 2001, at the Holiday Inn, Bethesda, Maryland. More than half the people had attended past conferences, so it was a kind of a friendly "reunion time" for them, and an opportunity to meet new people working on family issues. Featured themes of the 3 day conference included Parental Alienation of Children,
Parenting After Divorce, Support Networks for Children and Families, Access Transfer Centers for Children, Research Developments, and New Policies and Initiatives. Audiotapes were made of all the sessions. See the list of audiotapes later in this issue. If you couldn't attend the conference, audiotapes are a area a good way to find out about various topics. Even if you attended the conferences, tapes can refresh your memory of important points. Entertainment at the conference was
provided by Ernie Ashworth, member of the Grand Ole Opry, and Hadassah Luther, age 13, CRC's first ever child spokesperson. Ernie sang his 1966 Number 1 Country Hit, "Talk Back Trembling Lips" and Hadassah sang the new CRC song, "Hear the Cries of the Children." CRC thanks Mark Roseman, conference coordinator; Barbara Steinberg, Ph.D., speaker faculty coordinator; Cliff Clark, conference liaison, and all the people who assisted in carrying out this conference.
Some Conference Presentations (More presentations will appear in the next issue of this newsletter). Call Us Stepfamilies, not Blended Families by Margorie Engel, Ph.D. President, Stepfamily Association of America
Margorie Engel says Stepfamilies do not Blend, They `Combine' or `Fold Gently' As a general rule, the term stepfamily is preferred because it is consistent with the naming of all other family types. All other family types are defined by the parent-child relationship (e.g. biological, foster, adoptive, single parent). Because the choice of stepfamily (and any step attribution) is seen by some as negative (the wicked stepmother treated poorly as a stepchild, etc.), SAA and stepfamilies hope that, through education, the term stepfamily will acquire a positive, or at the very least, a neutral connotation. Referring to stepfamilies as blended families is troublesome to stepfamilies
and the professionals who work with them. It is a catchy media phrase that does not describe either a family relationship or what happens when at least one partner to a marriage brings children from a prior relationship (marriage ended by death or choice of an unwed parent). Stepfamilies do not "blend." If one is determined to use a cooking phrase, try "combine" or "fold gently." Children in stepfamilies do not lose their individuality or their connection and active attachment to the parent who is not part of the remarriage of mother or father. A stepfamily does not recreate a first family (i.e. blend into something entirely new with all prior connections severed and the former existence obliterated) and therapists have learned (and research confirms) that when stepfamilies expect to "blend," they are typically doomed to failure, because this is an unreal expectation.
Children actively balk at inferences that the stepfamily is to be considered their new family eligible to demand their full attention and loyalty. They know they have divided loyalties. Consider the confusion when both parents remarry and the child is expected to be a full-time member of TWO "blended" families. Parents must accept the reality that their children have lots of "parents" now and the nurturing no longer comes from a traditional family structure, instead of trying to blend everyone. It seems far better to help all individuals to understand the nature of the extended and expanded family with various segments having permeable boundaries. It is not helpful to anyone in a stepfamily to pretend that they are blended. The concept itself precludes working together with the expanded family members, and it is by working together that we create successful stepfamilies.
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Three Frequently Forgotten but Necessary Elements of Non-Profit Fundraising (but only if you want to be a success!) by Kevin Gallagher, former Director of Development, the Heritage Foundation, who is now assisting CRC in Development.
Gallagher Proposes Ways to Raise Funds 1) The number one motivation for giving is a belief in the cause. You have to make sure that your hoped for donor, whether a foundation, a corporation, or individual is on-board with who you are and what you do or provide. You cannot assume that they already know this. They only know what you tell them. Your accomplishments and accolades are worthless if you don't let each donor, or possible donor, know of them. You must prudently prove that your organization is doing good work, that it is worthy of their funding. Just because they are known to be of means, does not mean that they will fund you, even if you are a good cause. The very fact that they are of substantial "means" typically means that they make responsible and wise decisions in their business
worlds. Logically, this mentality carries over into their philanthropic interests, as well. To get their support, you have to market yourself, time and time again, as an organization with a product or service that they will delight in. It means that you must educate them. You must take them from knowledge of a good cause to believe in this good cause. Without question this is a time-consuming work. You must be on-board for the long-haul. (It is certainly a big help when the organization officers/developers are secondarily fundraisers and first and foremost convinced believers in the organization's cause!) You must have a good cause, be productive in bringing about that cause, and you must communicate that productivity to your donors and possible donors. And watch the fine line between the presumptuousness that tells them you are doing it all for the false humility that causes you to say nothing about your accomplishments. Possible donors are intelligent and can see right through us. Remember the definition of humility is "the truth before God."
2) You need to treat donors, or possible donors, with respect. Without respect, even if they believe in your cause, they will find another organization that is doing similar work and fund it. They are not walking checkbooks, but are partners in a common mission. Clearly this leads to the third point, which says relationships matter. 3) Relationships matter. I don't have a checklist of 10 things to do each day to build donor relations, for it is more of an attitude. The two words that do come to mind are friendship and communication. Friendships are hard work because they demand communication. Developing relationships with donors is hard work as well, for they are those new friends with which we need to communicate. Reflection shows that these two words should bring about a wealth of information, particularly when studies show that as high as 80% of annual dollar increases for an organization come from previous donors.
Extended Overnights Continued from page 4 exists, or possibly at a police station if one does not exist. CRC operates 14 "Safe Haven" Child transfer Centers in 6 states and Washington, D.C. They are located in church day care centers. At the sites, parents peacefully transfer their children from one parent to another for the weekend.
Some children are seeing their parents for the first time because of these sites. Even if CRC does not have a grant to manage a particular site, we do not charge the parents. We do not believe a parent should have to pay to see his or her child. A surprising 40 percent of parents who use these sites are women, and about 40 percent are never-married parents. The churches often provide the monitors, but any grant is supervised by CRC. Supervision of the grant by CRC
insulates the church from direct funding by the government, but the church helps to deliver the family services. Some sites are developing parent education components. Remedy: Again, expand the access/ visitation block grants to the states to $40 million a year; also provide funds in the "Fatherhood" bills to provide services such as these. Thank you for the opportunity to present testimony.
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Welfare Reform by Ron Haskins (conference presenter), Isabel Sawhill, and Kent Weaver
Haskins: Welfare Reform has Led to More Jobs and Less Family Poverty Welfare Reform, An Overview of Effects to Date Executive summary
The 1996 welfare law produced numerous, wide-ranging changes in state policies and practices. Greater emphasis is now being given to job placement in welfare offices in most states. Employment by single mothers, a group which in the past has been the least likely to work and the most likely to be on welfare, is on the rise. Increased employment has led to higher earnings and declining welfare payments to poor and low-income families. Similarly, starting in 1994, there have been substantial declines in overall child poverty and the largest declines ever in
black child poverty. In addition, after increasing for decades, nonmarital births have leveled off; and teen births have declined significantly since the early 1990s. Although the evidence of the law's impact on children is sparse, most researchers conclude that for young children
, the results are either neutral or slightly positive in areas such as school behavior and school performance. Some of the good news must be attributed to a strong economy. Moreover, the research shows that there are problems associated with welfare reform. For example, some unemployed families are financially worse off and some families who are eligible for Medicaid and food stamps are losing those benefits when they leave welfare rolls. These and other problems merit careful attention and possibly action by the 107th Congress during the upcoming reauthorization debate. Welfare Reform Reauthorization: An Overview of Problems and Issues Executive Summary
Although the 1996 welfare reform legislation has produced a number of positive outcomes, there are serious issues facing the 107th Congress as it prepares to reauthorize the legislation by October 1, 2002. This policy brief discusses 13 important issues associated with the legislation and the controversy surrounding each of them. The issues include: funding of the Temporary Assistance to Needy Families (TANF) program, and whether states will retain the level of funding and flexibility in program design and operation they currently enjoy; the growing concern that some families are worse off as a result of sanctions or time limits, because they failed to find or retain jobs after leaving welfare; and the concern that too many children are being reared by single mothers. Also at issue for the new Congress is whether there is enough money for child care, if more assistance should be provided to working poor families, and whether more should be done to help mothers qualify for better jobs. For more information, contact Haskins at the Brookings Institute, Washington, D.C.
Own Your Own Ernie Ashworth CD What beautiful music! Order the CD "Ernie Ashworth and Friends Sing Out for CRC," and if you are not completely satisfied, we will refund your money. The CD's are only $12 each, including S/H. Order one for your friends and relatives. They make a delightful gift! Copies of the CD may be ordered online at www.gocrc.com, or by writing to the national CRC office at 300 "I" Street N.E., Suite 401, Washington, D.C. 20002. Bulk orders of 6 or more CD's are $10 per CD, including S/H. For more information about the CD, contact Keith Bradford, owner of KMA Records, 256 East Old Hickory Kitty Wells Blvd, Madison, TN 37115, phone (615) 612-3899, or www.KMArecords.com Additional information may also be obtained from David Courson, coordinator, CRC of Tennessee, at www.TNcrc.com, or email to [email protected]
Would you like to help sponsor a Grand Ole Opry country music
bus tour that will visit your city? The "bus" will include Grand Ole Opry member Ernie Ashworth, 13-year-old child singer Hadassah Luther and other rising country stars. Contact CRC for information.
Summer 2001 Speak Out For Children
British Embassy Benefit Reception for CRC
The British Ambassador to the U.S. Sir Christopher Meyer, and his wife, Catherine Meyer, sponsored a benefit reception for CRC at the British Embassy Residence and Gardens the evening of May 3. Attendees strolled in the lovely Embassy Residence Gardens and mingled in the stately Mansion rooms. "It was a very diverse audience and a wonderful opportunity for CRC. It showed that people from many backgrounds have a common interest in some of the important issues affecting children," said CRC Board Chairman John L. Bauserman, Jr. "CRC thanks the Ambassador and Lady Meyer, and Mrs. Willee Lewis, a friend of Lady Meyer's, for this event," said CRC President David L. Levy. The Ambassador, Lady Meyer, Lewis, and Levy, all spoke at the reception. Hadassah Luther sang "Hear the Cries of the Children." About 200 people attended; some were from the CRC conference which began that day, and others were representatives of Washington media, politics, society and philanthropy. They included members of the Sarnoff, Cafritz, Gildenhorn, Ourisman, Pillsbury, and Folger families, former Washington Post Executive Editor Ben Bradlee and his wife writer Sally Quinn, and Susan Eisenhower, granddaughter of former President Dwight D. Eisenhower. A number of prominent individuals took part in sponsorship of the Benefit. Below is a copy of the invitation to the Embassy reception that was mailed to more than 1,200 people prior to the event. CRC is grateful to conference sponsors: The Annie E. Casey Foundation and the Freddie Mac Foundation. We thank Bladen Lithographics in Gaithersburg, MD for providing printing services to CRC.
Willee Lewis, Catherine Meyer, David L. Levy (l to r) at British Embassy Reception for CRC
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At the conference, CRC presented awards. They are:
A 2001 Best in Media Award to CBS Evening News, Jim Stewart, correspondent and Mark Katkov, producer for the two-part series on Alternatives to Divorce Litigation January 22-23. Mr. Stewart accepted the award on behalf of CBS Evening News. It was noted that CBS Evening News and 60 Minutes, a CBS News Presentation, have also covered other topics of concern to CRC, including the damage that international parental kidnapping does to children.
ment Award to
Ronald K. Henry,
for service to chil-
dren and families in
Ron Henry, Advocate
separation and divorce. Henry is a
partner in the
Washington, D.C. law firm of Kaye,
Scholer, Fierman, Hays and Handler;
member, American Law Institute; and
Advisor, National Conference of Com-
missioners on Uniform State Laws. Ron
has helped many custody law reform
advocates across the country.
The first Sonny Burmeister award
had previously gone to Candace
Schooley, long time friend of Sonny, in
his name; the second Sonny Burmeister
award went to CRC President David L.
Sonny had been
the engaging, re-
sourceful, head of
CRC of Georgia be-
fore his accidental
death in February,
1996. He would
reach out to people
Award Presented in name of late child
all cross the country who needed help.
He also evaluated
research. It was
Burmeister who in a survey of Census
Bureau data in 1994 discovered that
there was an inverse ratio between family and poverty; that is, the states with the highest number of two parent families, had the lowest poverty rate. CRC has distributed that data to policymakers ever since Burmeister uncovered the information.
Ernie and Bettye Ashworth Rights Council
Award to Ernie
Ole Opry, and
A 2001 Child Advocacy Award to Hadassah Luther, the Children's Rights Council's first-ever Child Spokesperson
A 2001 Best in Media Award to
Channel 11, Toledo, Ohio, for being a
friend to Children and the Children's
Rights Council by publicizing The Gift
Exchange Child Safety Center in Toledo
A 2001 Best in
Media Award to
nel 11 Toledo,
Ohio for being a
friend to Children
and the Children's
Receives Best in Media Award
Rights Council by publicizing The Gift
Safety Center in Toledo
A 2001 Child Advocacy Award to Nancy Beals, Connecticut State Representative, for supporting children and the Children's Rights Council
Wins Volunteer Award Kat Cooper Wins Parenting Award
A 2001 Volunteer of the Year Award to Mark Inzetta, J.D., for outstanding work with the Children's Rights Council of Ohio on behalf of children and families A 2001 Best in Parenting Award, to Kat Cooper, Director, Maricopa County, Arizona, for its Educational Video Project Entitled "Family Ties and Knots"
Lyn and Bill Huerter Pioneers in Helping Families
A Lifelong Achievement Award to Lyn and Bill Huerter, pioneers in helping children and parents, and for maintaining CRC of Nebraska/Iowa, which has for several years been the largest of the Children's Rights Council's 38 chapters
Meyer Publicizes Plight of Kidnapped Children
An International Child Advocacy Award to Catherine Meyer, CRC's Honorary President, for leadership in publicizing the needs of children in the U.S. and around the world
Continued on page 10
Summer 2001 Speak Out For Children
Continued from page 9
Robinson has helped CRC for 16 years
A 2001 Volun-
teer of the Year
Award to Paul M.
Robinson, for dedi-
cation to the cause
of children and
families, and for
Council in many
ways for 16 years
A 2001 Volun-
teer of the Year
Award to Walter
M. Kuckes, for
dedication to chil-
dren and families in
Minnesota by ob-
Kuckes Publicizes Information for Parents in Minnesota
taining state-wide availability of important court-approved access (visi-
CRC held a press conference
on Capitol Hill July 25 honoring 8 states for the Best State Initiatives Helping Children and Families. See our website at www.gocrc.com or the next issue of "Speak Out for Children" for details.
Run to the Sun by Robert Davй
370 pages, softback, published by Lost Coast Press, $17. ISBN 1-88289759-5. Available from CRC (see book catalog elsewhere in this issue). For fans of John LeCarre or other writers of adventure/suspense/intrigue, you will love Run to the Sun. Not only is the book exceptionally well written, but custody and access problems form the core reason as to why the action and suspense take place. Never before has CRC seen a custody dispute placed in the context of a suspense novel. It is an ingenious way to introduce readers who would normally never read a custody book to learn about the topic within the context of a fast-paced novel. The book is a page-turner! Psychologist Michael Santorini lives in beautiful Hawaii, but there's plenty of trouble in paradise. Santorini and his estranged wife Mona are battling for custody of their young son and daughter. When Mona kidnaps the children
and flees to San Francisco
, the furious Michael follows, unaware that he's being stalked by a single-minded murderer. In an attack aimed at Michael, Mona is slain, and eyewitnesses place Michael at the scene, making him the prime suspect. Santorini then goes underground with a close group of friends in order to unravel an international conspiracy of lies and secrets spanning epochs as well as continents. Santorini recalls some of the horrors of this custody battle. One involves a custody evaluation. If you have ever been subject to an evaluation which was based on assumptions, unproven facts, and questionable data, you will love Chapter 7 - where Santorini's attorney demolishes evaluator "Large Marge." Marge had concluded that Santorini had not one, but two, personality disorders, based on her own flimsy assumptions. After the furious attorney cross-examination of Marge, the reader is left with the possibility that Marge will never again unjustifiably try to remove a caring parent from a child's life. Hired guns who will say anything, regardless of the truth -- beware, suggests the author, who is a clinical and forensic psychologist prac-
ticing in Hawaii.
The author is
married, and lives
in a stepfamily with
the children ranging in age from eight to
One scene in the book is set at the
1993 CRC conference in Bethesda,
Maryland. The author and his wife also
attended the 13th national CRC con-
ference in May, 2001.
In the interests of full disclosure,
we must mention that the back cover
of the book says that a portion of the
proceeds from the sale of this book will
be donated to the Children's Rights
Whether or not CRC receives any
proceeds from sales, we would recom-
mend the book anyway, because it is
an ingenious way to educate suspense
novel readers about the curse of an
attempted "Parentectomy" -- the re-
moval of a loving parent from a child's
Call your local book store or li-
brary, and ask them to order the book!
That's what some CRC people have
done, and we have gotten several book
stores and libraries to carry the book!
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This Child of Mine: A Therapist's Journey by Martha Wakenshaw Reviewed by Jessica Brooks, CRC Staffer
187 pages, paperback. $12.95. ISBN 0967473608. Harbinger Press. Martha Wakenshaw's novel chronicles both her personal journey as an adult and a mother, and her professional journey as a child therapist. The stories Wakenshaw recounts of her patients--abused, neglected and traumatized children--are simply heartbreaking. Readers meet Jackson, Candy, Shelly and a host of other children who have suffered unthinkable traumas. These
children are often classified as having "ODD,"or Oppositional Defiant Disorder and shuffled through a complex and inefficient system of paperwork and red tape. They act out in their anger and pain, often hurting themselves and others. Wakenshaw attempts to understand the psyche behind her patients' actions, and provide them with what they crave most--love. As an abused child herself, Wakenshaw can sympathetically follow her patients as they travel the road to recovery. In doing so, she discovers a need for healing deep within herself and begins searching for her own path to spiritual recovery. Overwhelmed by the
pain of her own childhood and the sufferings of her patients, Wakenshaw fights to bring love and hope into the lives of all of her patients, as well as into her own life. Despite the heartwrenching stories within the book, Wakenshaw retains an optimistic attitude towards her work. She never loses faith in the children she sees, or in the healing power of love. This simultaneously heartbreaking and uplifting book is written by a veteran psychotherapist who has worked as a child therapist for fifteen years. Both books reviewed are available from CRC. See Catalog of Books in this Issue.
Connecticut CRC Celebrates Child's Day
CRC of Connecticut celebrated National Child's Day by sponsoring a New Haven Ravens baseball game at Yale University
Baseball Field Sunday, May 3. The Ravens is a farm team for the St. Louis Cardinals, one of the popular regional and local baseball farm teams in the U.S. Ms. Themis Klarides, a state representative supportive of CRC of Connecticut, threw out the first ball, Hadassah Luther sang the National Anthem
, and "Take Me Out to the Ball game." "It was a terrific day. More than 2,000 people watched the game," said John Kristoff, CRC program director. CRC raffled box seats and a baseball bat signed by all the team members, with proceeds to CRC of Connecticut. "This was a day to make people aware of the need to recognize children's needs," said Mark Roseman, CRC Connecticut Coordinator. The Connecticut chapter also planned to hold a free Family Day Picnic August 12, at the Ansonia Nature and Recreation Center, Ansonia, CT, with live folk music.
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Children's Rights Council 2001 CATALOG OF RESOURCES for parents and professionals MANY BOOKS DISCOUNTED! Buy at Discount and Sell Full Price to Your Group Make $$$ or Give Copies to Educate Judges or Policymakers Discounted Books Are in Bold Type
Book of the Month: Run to the Sun -- A novel of Suspense, by Robert Davй, 2001. The story of parental kidnapping, conspiracy and lies. Special CRC CD Ernie Ashworth and Friends: Sing Out For The Children's Rights Council .
BOOKS FOR KIDS A Heart Full of Love, written by Bette S. Margolis, illus- trated by Christie L. Kline. A wonderful book for that special 7- to 9-year-old in your life who is undergoing parental divorce. SB-101 ---------------------------------------------------------- $15.00 I Love You More Than..., by Elizabeth Hickey and James Cohen. Illustrated by Lynda Smart Brown, 1998. HB-102 ---------------------------------------------------------- $16.95 Daddy Day, Daughter Day, by CNN's Larry King and Chaia King, 1997. A true story of divorce told through both a child's and a father's perspective. SB-103 ---------------------------------------------------------- $12.95 How to Survive Your Parent's Divorce: Kids Advice to Kids, by Gayle Kimball, 1994. Easy-to-read one-of-a-kind guide for young people and their parents as they reshape their lives post-divorce. SB-104 .............. Reg. $9.95 IDiscount Price __ $4.00
The Divorce Workbook, by Sally Ives, David Fassler & Michelle Lasch, 1985. How to facilitate honest and open communication between adults and children at the traumatic time of separation and divorce. Q and A for kids. SB-108 ---------------------------------------------------------- $15.95 My Book, My Self for Boys, by Linda Madaras and Area Madaras, 1995. The "What's Happening to My Body for Boys." SB-109 ............ Reg. $11.95 IDiscount Price __ $6.00
BOOKS FOR PARENTS
The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce--A 25-Year Landmark Study, by Judith S. Wallerstein, Julia M. Lewis, and Sandra Blakeslee, 2000. The best-selling book that says many children of divorce suffer long-term effects from divorce. SB-200 ----------------------------------- $24.95
I Think Divorce Stinks, by Marcia Lebowitz, 1992. Helps children recognize that it is appropriate to have negative feelings about divorce and to express those feelings. SB-105 ------------------------------------------------------------ $4.95
50/50 Parenting, by Gayle Kimball, Ph.D. Almost 300 co-parents and 83 children report on life in married, divorced, and step-family situations. SB-201 ------------------------------------------------------------ $9.95
What am I Doing in a Stepfamily?, by Claire Berman, 1994. A children's book explaining how two families can be better than one. SB-106 ---------------------------------------------------------- $12.00
Divorce Book for Parents, by Vicki Lansky, 1987. Warmly supportive and reassuring, this comprehensive guide speaks to all divorced and divorcing parents. HB-203 ------------------------------------------------------------ $6.00
It's Not Your Fault, Koko Bear, by Vicki Lansky, 1998. Koko Bear can help children understand divorce and sends a good message. SB-107 ----------------------------------- $5.99
The Divorce Help Source Book, by Margorie Engel, 1994. Combines sound advice with hundreds of potential sources of help to assist you in getting the results you deserve. SB-204 ............ Reg. $17.95 IDiscount Price __ $7.00
Summer 2001 Speak Out For Children
Divorced Dads, Shattering the Myths, by Sanford L. Braver, Ph.D., 1998. The surprising truth about fathers, children and divorce. HB-205 ----------------------------------- $24.95
Putting Kids First, by Michael Oddenino. A must read for caring parents and professionals, by CRC's General Counsel. Includes a children's bill of rights. SB-215 ------------------------------------ $9.95
For the Sake of the Children, by Kris Kline and Stephen Pew, 1992. Discusses how to share your children with your exspouse despite your anger. Kline is CRC's Florida coordinator. PHOTOCOPIES ONLY! HB-206 ............ Reg. $18.95 IDiscount Price __ $9.00 Divorce: Crisis, Challenge, or Relief?, by David A. Chiriboga and Linda S. Catron, 1991. Addresses the impact of divorce on children through different stages of their lives. SB-207 ............ Reg. $22.50 IDiscount Price __ $5.00
Second Chances, by Judith Wallerstein and Sandra Blakeslee, 1989. Based on ten year longitudinal study of the effects of divorce on adults and children. HB-216 ............ Reg. $14.95 IDiscount Price __ $5.00 Surviving the Break-Up, How Children and Parents Cope with Divorce, by Judith Wallerstein, Ph.D. and Joan Kelly, Ph.D., 1980. A classic that is still valid in discussing the problems of children being raised by single parents. SB-217 ............ Reg. $14.00 IDiscount Price _ $10.00
Why Parents Disagree: How Women and Men Parent Differently and How We Can Work Together, by Dr. Ron Taffel, 1994. An explanation of why parents begin to lead different lives and how parents can raise kids as partners, not enemies. SB-208 ---------------------------------------------------------- $23.00 NEW! This Child of Mine: A Therapist's Journey, by Martha Wakenshaw. Stories of abused and neglected children who are travelling the road to recovery. This book can help other abused children
to recover. HB-209 ---------------------------------------------------------- $12.95 A Hole in My Heart, by Claire Berman, 1991. A book that will enable adult children of divorce to recognize the role they play in changing patterns in their lives. SB-210 ............ Reg. $10.00 IDiscount Price __ $5.00 Families Apart, by Melinda Blau, 1993. 10 Keys to Suc- cessful Co-Parenting. A blend of the author's own research, and that of other experts, and rich in anecdotal information. SB-211 ............ Reg. $22.95 IDiscount Price _ $10.00 REVISED! Mom's House, Dad's House, by Isolina Ricci, Ph.D., 1998. Making shared custody work: How parents can make two homes for their children after divorce. 100 New pages to this classic book! SB-212 ---------------------------------------------------------- $20.00 Negotiating Love: How Women and Men Can Resolve Their Differences, by Riki Robbins Jones, 1995. Points out destructive habits by both sexes which, when realized, strengthen families and relationships. SB-213 ---------------------------------------------------------- $14.00 The Complete Idiot's Guide to Surviving Divorce, by Paula Weintraub and Terry Hillman, 1996. SB-214 ............ Reg. $16.95 IDiscount Price __ $7.00
REVISED! Creating a Successful Parenting Plan, by Dr. Jayne A. Major. Nationally acclaimed author of "Breakthrough Parenting" and "Winning the Custody War Without Casualties" SB-218 ---------------------------------------------------------- $24.95 3 Steps to a Strong Family, by Linda and Richard Eyre, 1994. A 3-step program that can make your family life happier, less stressful, and more rewarding. HB-219 ---------------------------------------------------------- $19.50 Familyhood: Nurturing the Values that Matter, by Dr. Lee Salk, 1992. A practical, inspiring guide to communicating values. HB-220 ............ Reg. $21.00 IDiscount Price _ $10.00 The Best Parent is Both Parents: A Guide to Shared Parenting in the 21st Century, the CRC book edited by David L. Levy. Order bulk copies (10 or more) for only $4 a copy, resell the copies for the list price of $10 each, and make a profit for you or your organization! Individual copies will continue to be available from CRC for $10 each, plus $4 for postage, as long as supplies last. If you would like copies (individual or bulk order) autographed by David L. Levy, just state to whom you would like it autographed (yourself, perhaps your children--give their names). SB-221 ---------- Order 10 copies or more each only $4.00 ------------------------------------------- Individual copies $10.00 Helping Your Kids Cope With Divorce, by M. Gary Neuman, L.M.H.C. 1996. This book is based on the nationally renowned "Sandcastles" workshop. HB-222 ---------------------------------------------------------- $25.00 The Sibling Society, by Robert Bly, 1996, author of "Iron John." Describes our culture as one where adults remain children, and children have no desire to become adults--a nation of squabbling siblings. HB-223 ............ Reg. $25.00 IDiscount Price _ $12.00
Ceasefire, by Cathy Young, 1999, syndi- cated columnist. Why women and men must join forces to achieve true equality; how that will help children, too. HB-224 ----------------------------------- $25.00
Abolition of Marriage, by Maggie Gallagher, 1996, syndicated columnist. How we destroy lasting love. HB-226 ----------------------------------- $25.00
Friends for Life, by Susan Jonas and Marilyn Nissenson, 1997. Enriching the bond between mothers and their adult daughters. HB-227 ---------------------------------------------------------- $29.00
Talking Back to Ritalin, by Peter R. Breggin, M.D., 1998, 4-time guest on Oprah. What doctors aren't telling you about the dangers of stimulants. HB-228 -------------------------------------- $25.00
The Assault on Parenthood, by Dana Mack, 1997. The author, a scholar at the Institute for American Values, describes how our culture undermines the family. HB-229 ............ Reg. $25.00 IDiscount Price _ $10.00
Babyhood, by Paul Reiser, 1997. This is not a how-to-book. It contains humorous stories by the star, co-creator and executive producer of the NBC Series Mad About You. Reiser's first book, Couplehood, was a #1 New York Times bestseller list. HB-230 ---------------------------- Reg. $22.00 IDiscount Price ---------------------- $10.00
Working Fathers, by James A. Levine, CRC Advisor, and Todd L. PIttinsky. A guide to help fathers as well as mothers, employees and managers, succeed in managing the competitive demands of home and work. HB-231 ............ Reg. $23.00 IDiscount Price _ $10.00
The War Against Parents, by Sylvia Ann Hewlett and Cornel West.Praised by CRC in a letter to the Washington Post Book World when the book was published in 1998. HB-232 ----------------------------------- $24.00 IDiscount Price ---------------------- $10.00
Business Dad, by Tom Hirschfeld. How Good Business- men Can Make Great Fathers (and Vice Versa), 1999. Recommended by Stephen R. Covey author of The 7 habits of Highly Effective People, and by James A. Levine, director, The Fatherhood Project, Families and Work Institute. HB-218 ............ Reg. $17.25 IDiscount Price _ $10.00
Ask the Children, by Ellen Galinsky, president of the Families and Work Institute, 1999. What America's Children Really Think about Working Parents. HB-235 ---------------------------- Reg. $25.00 IDiscount Price ---------------------- $10.00
Saying No Is Not Enough Rais-
ing Children Who Make Wise Decisions About
Drugs and Alcohol, by Robert Schwebel, 1989.
IDiscount Price __ $5.00
Fathers, Sons & Golf Lessons in Honor and In-
tegrity, by Andrew Shanley, 1997. The experience of a
father who spent a memorable summer with his sons
playing golf and learning about integrity.
IDiscount Price _ $10.00
Mars and Venus in Love, by John Gray, Ph.D. 1996.
From the author of "Men are from Mars, Women are
from Venus", An inspiring and heartfelt stories from
relationships that work
IDiscount Price _ $10.00
Parent Power, by Roberta Kirshbaum, 1998. 90 Win-
ning ways to be involved and help your child get the
most out of school. An inspirational handbook to help
you take charge of your child's education, from kin-
dergarten through high school!
IDiscount Price __ $5.00
Like Father Like Son, by Hunter S. Fulghum, 1996.
This book is about experiencing life even when you
feel there may not be much happening. A warm, witty
and wise collection of stories on being a man at mid-
life in America.
IDiscount Price _ $10.00
Angry Marriage (Overcoming the Rage, Reclaim-
ing the Love), by Bonnie Maslin, Ph.D. 1994. A book
that will help you understand how to turn the anger in
your marriage into a positive force.
IDiscount Price __ $4.00
The Divorce Culture, by Barbara Dafoe Whitehead (1996). Worth reading for its insightful views of marriage and divorce, but deficient in not recognizing the phenomenon of the "forced away" and "pushed away" parents. HB-233 ............ Reg. $24.00 IDiscount Price _ $10.00
Father's Day Notes from a New Dad in the Real
World, by Bill McCoy, 1995. A wonderful book for all
new and not-so-new dads.
IDiscount Price _ $10.00
LIFE with Father, LIFE Magazine, 1995. A wonderful gift book for men. 82 photographs collected from the archives of LIFE magazine, depicting images of LIFE with father. HB-243 _____________________ IDiscount Price __________ $10.00
Healing the Gender Wars Therapy with Men and Couples, by Samuel Slipp, 1996. In Healing the Gender Wars, the author brings to bear his erudite and thoughtful analysis of male-female conflict, from a modern psychoanalytic, object relations perspective, practical in application. HB-251 ---------------------------------------------------------- $10.00
Rookie Dad Adventures In Fatherhood, by Rick
Epstein, 1992. A hilarious and tender memoir by a first
time father. A wonderful gift for the man in your life!
IDiscount Price __ $5.00
Building a Marriage 10 Tools for Creating, Re-
pairing, and Maintaining Your Lives Together,
by Cranor Graves. HB-245 ...........................
IDiscount Price __ $5.00
Peace with Your Partner A Practical Guide to a
Happy Marriage, by Cranor Graves.
IDiscount Price __ $5.00
Letters From Dad Lessons and Love, by John
and Jack Broome, 1996. The book is a moving collec-
tion of the letters John Broome sent his son, Jack, in
an effort to remain a positive force in his development.
IDiscount Price _ $10.00
Who's On Top, Who's On Bottom How Couples
Can Learn to Share Power, by Dr. Robert Schwebel,
1994. Women and men reveal their struggles with one
another. The core of each story is about people who
love each other, but are engaged in power struggles
and unable to share power as equals. The book pro-
vides GOOD practical examples and solutions.
IDiscount Price __ $6.00
Masculinity Reconstructed, by Dr. Ronald F. Levant.
Changing the rules of manhood-at work, in relation-
ships and in family life.
IDiscount Price _ $10.00
Throwaway Dads, by Ross D. Parke and Armin A. Brott, 1999. The myths and barriers that keep men from being the fathers they want to be. "An essential guide not only for fathers, but for a culture that is not sure what to do with them" (Gurian, Michael) HB-248 ------------------------------------- $20.00
The Divorced Parent Success Strategies for Raising Your Children After Separation, by Stephanie Marston, 1994. "Any parent could ben- efit from reading this truly exciting book. Hardly a page without good, practical suggestions for improving one's parenting" (Louise Bates, Ph.D.) HB-249 ---------------------------------------------------------- $12.00
NEW! Complex Issues in Child Custody Evaluations, by Philip M. Stahl, 1999. In this book, the author provides a theoretical and practical understanding of many of the factors that make custody evaluations complex. Stahl integrates disparate research findings
into a comprehensive resource that will enable the evaluator and the court to understand and deal with spousal conflict, abuse and other complicating issues. HB-250 ---------------------------------------------------------- $30.00
Men on Divorce, edited by Penny Kaganoff and Susan
Spano, 1997. "A rare, unusually focused anthology of
original essays that both entertains and instructs"
IDiscount Price _ $10.00
BOOKS FOR STEPPARENTS
How to Win as a Stepfamily, by Emily Visher, Ph.D. and John Visher, M.D., 1982. The co-founders of the Stepfamily Association of America answer questions and give suggestions on how to make stepfamilies work. HB-301 ---------------------------------------------------------- $13.95
Making it as a Stepparent, New Roles/New Rules, by Claire Berman, 1986. Former president of the Stepfamily Association of America provides practical help and insights. SB-302 ------------------------------------ $7.95
Stepfamilies Stepping Ahead, edited by Mala Burt for the Stepfamily Association of America. SB-303 ------------------------------------------------------------ $9.95
Making Peace in Your Stepfamily, by Harold H.
Bloomfield, M.D. 1993. A guide to surviving and thriv-
ing as parents and stepparents. Filled with practical
help and written with simplicity.
IDiscount Price _ $10.00
BOOKS FOR GRANDPARENTS
Grandparenting in a Changing World, by Edna LeShan, 1997. "Common sense presented with uncommon grace." --Kirkus Reviews. SB-401 ............ Reg. $12.00 IDiscount Price __ $6.00
Grandparents as Parents: A Survival Guide for Raising a Second Family, by Sylvie de Toledo and Deborah Edler Brown. A "how-to" manual for grandparents who are raising their grandchildren. HB-403 ---------------------------- Reg. $17.00 Grandparenting: It's Not What It Used To Be, by Irene Endicott, forward by Gloria Batiher, Expert Answers to your questions. HB-404 ------------------------------------------------------------ $6.00
BOOKS FOR SINGLE PARENTS
Still a Dad, The Divorced Father's Journey, by CRC's own Serge Prengel, 1998. Published with praise from Warren Farrell, Karen DeCrow, and James A. Cook. SB-2501 ------------------------------------ $13.95
Surviving Divorce--Women's Re-
sources After Separation, by Mavis
Maclean, 1991. Women coping with earnings, mainte-
nance and welfare in the U.S., France, and Great Brit-
IDiscount Price __ $5.00
Another Way Home: A Single Father's Story, by John Thorndike, 1996. A memoir of Thorndike's life with his wife and the difficult decisions he has had to make regarding their son's life. HB-503 ............ Reg. $24.00 IDiscount Price _ $12.00
Fatherless America, by David Blankenhorn, 1995. Shows the devastating consequences of fatherlessness in both individual families and in our society. HB-504 ............ Reg. $23.00 IDiscount Price _ $10.00
The Masculine Mystique: The Politics of Masculinity, by Andrew Kimbrell, 1995. Presents the argu- ment that American men are in crisis and includes what lead to this phenomenon. HB-505 ............ Reg. $23.00 IDiscount Price _ $10.00
The Daddy Track and the Single Father, by Geoffery L. Greif, 1990. A book about successfully coping with kids, housework, a job, an ex-wife, a social life, and the courts. HB-506 ---------------------------------------------------------- $19.95
Money-Smart Divorce. What Women Need to Know about Money and Divorce, by Esther M. Berger, 1996. SB-507 ---------------------------------------------------------- $22.00
Why Men Are the Way They Are, by Warren Farrell, 1986. Provides insights into loved one's secret insights and desires. SB-509 .............. Reg. $5.99 IDiscount Price __ $3.00
Fathers' Rights, by Jeffrey Leving. A best-sell- ing book for fathers who want to maintain contact with their children. SB-510 ------------------------------------------ $12.50
The Divorced Parent: Success Strategies for Raising Your Children After Separation, by Stephanie Marston, 1994. Provides prac- tical advice and specific tools for raising well-adjusted children. HB-511 ---------------------------------------------------------- $21.00
Like Father, Like Son, By Hunter S. Fulghum, 1996. A collection of stories on being a man at midlife in America, with introduction by Robert Fulghum. HB-512 ............ Reg. $21.95 IDiscount Price _ $11.00
Child Custody Made Simple, by Webster Watnik, 1997. Answers all your questions about child custody and child support for a single parent. SB-513 ---------------------------------------- $21.95 The Single Parent's Money Guide, by Emily Card, 1996. A plan for managing your money when you are the only one your family can count on. SB-514 ............ Reg. $14.95 IDiscount Price __ $6.00
Questions from Dad, by CRC Spokesperson and pop singer Dwight Twilley, 1994. A very cool way to communicate with your child. Introduced by Dr. Susan Forward. SB-515 ---------------------------------------------------------- $17.00
I Am the Mother of Sons. Poems by Jayne Jaudon Ferrer, 1996. Illustrated by Lina Levy. HB-516 ---------------------------------------------------------- $10.00
Men on Divorce--The Other Side of the Story, ed- ited by Penny Kaganoff and Susan Spano, 1997. SB-517 ............ Reg. $12.00 IDiscount Price __ $6.00
One Swell Dad, by Pat Ross, 1992. The book of memo-
ries and expressions of fatherly endearment from the
IDiscount Price __ $9.00
The Prodigal Father (Reuniting Fathers and Their
Children), by Mark Bryan, 1997. "'The Prodigal Fa-
ther' is a prescription for renewal, offering fathers,
mothers, and children a chance to forgive, redeem, and
heal their broken relationships and reconstruct whole,
healthy, and reconciled lives" (Claudia Highbaugh)
IDiscount Price _ $10.00
When She Leaves You, by Ian MacDonald, 1995. "Men
often react disastrously to a marriage ending...this
book gives precisely the kind of help that can make a
difference" (Steve Biddulph, author of Manhood).
IDiscount Price __ $5.00
MEDIATION & CONFLICT RESOLUTION Family Evaluations in Child Custody, Mediation, Arbitration and Litigation, by Richard Gardner, M.D., 1989. In this update, Gardner proposes a three-phase system to remove child custody evaluations from courtroom litigation. HB-601 ---------------------------------------------------------- $45.00 Healing Hearts, Helping Children and Adults Recover from Divorce, by Elizabeth Hickey, M.S.W., CRC's National Parent Education Director, and Elizabeth Dalton, attorney and mediator HB-602 ---------------------------------------------------------- $15.00 Parent Vs. Parent: How You and Your Child Can Survive the Custody Battle, by Stephen P. Herman, M.D., 1990. Expert advice for parents through all stages of the divorce process. HB-603 ---------------------------------------------------------- $20.95 Between Love and Hate, A Guide to Civilized Divorce, by Lois Gold, M.S.W., 1992. Learn the funda- mental skills of negotiation conflict resolution and mediation, for everyone's good. SB-604 ............ Reg. $13.95 IDiscount Price __ $6.00 LEGAL ISSUES
The Father's Emergency Guide to Divorce/Custody Battle, A Tour Through the Predatory World of Judges, Lawyers, Psychologists and Social Workers in the Subculture of Divorce, by Robert Seidenberg, with the legal insights of Williams Dawes, Esq., 1997. SB-707 ---------------------------------------------------------- $15.00
Every Parent's Guide to the Law, by Deborah L. Forman. Everything you need to know about legal issues affecting parents and children pre-birth through the childrearing years. SB-708 ---------------------------------------------------------- $18.00
Divorce Yourself, the National No-Fault Divorce Kit, by Daniel Sitarz, 3rd ed. 1993. Everything you and your spouse will need to obtain your divorce without using a lawyer. Instructions, easy-to-use legal forms, checklists, and courtroom guidelines. Legally valid in all 50 states and D.C. SB-709 ............ Reg. $24.95 IDiscount Price _ $15.00
Betrayal of the Child, by Stewart Rein, 2001. A father's guide to Family Courts. "A book that refutes the single parent theology and concludes that only two parents can serve the best interests of children" (Dr. John Chipingdon) SB-710 -------------------------------------- $22.95
From Courtship to Courtroom: What Divorce Law Is Doing to Mariage, by Jed H. Abraham, 2000. Abraham, a lawyer, mediator, and joint custody advocate, writes a chilling picture of how today's divorce laws make life miserable for families. SB-701 ---------------------------------- $15.00
PARENTAL KIDNAPPING Autographed Copies! They Are My Children, Too, by Catherine Meyer, 1999. Powerful account of a mother's loss of her children. A case of international parental kidnapping. Written by CRC's new Honorary President. HB-801 ---------------------------------------------------------- $23.00
A Family Divided, by Robert Mendelson, 1997. A discussion of a divorced father's struggle with the child custody industry. HB-703 --------------------------- Reg. $21.00 IDiscount Price $10.00
When Parents Kidnap, by Geoffrey Greif and Rebecca Hegar, 1993. This book captures the experiences of parents searching for their children and abductors who have taken them; also makes public policy recommendations. HB-802 ---------------------------------------------------------- $22.95
The Custody Revolution, by Richard Warshak, 1992. The Father Factor and the Motherhood Mystique. HB-704 ............ Reg. $21.00 IDiscount Price _ $15.00 Custody for Fathers, by Carleen and Michael Brennan, 1994. Includes more than 100 strategies that have helped fathers win (share) custody of their children in a mom-biased system. HB-705 ............ Reg. $24.95 IDiscount Price _ $12.00 Divorce and the Myth of Lawyers, by Lenard Marlow, J.D., 1992. The exposition of myths regarding the legal system and its effects on divorcing couples. HB-706 ---------------------------------------------------------- $10.95
Run to the Sun, by Robert Davй, 20001. A novel of suspense. The story of parental kidnapping, conspiracy and lies. HB-803 -------------------------------------- $16.95
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Additional Findings that Overnights by Infants with the Other Parent Are Fine by Richard A. Warshak, Ph.D. author of book entitled, "Divorce Poison" to be published in October, 2001 This is a synopsis of an article by noted researcher Richard A. Warshak that appeared in the Family and Conciliation Courts Review, October, 2000 , a quarterly publication of the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC). Reprinted with permission. It was the second article published by the AFCC in 2000 on this topic, reflecting the importance that the topic of overnights has become. The first article was by researchers Joan B. Kelly, Ph.D. and Michael E. Lamb, Ph.D. that said extended overnights by infants with the other parent are o.k. (See "Speak Out for Children," Spring, 2001). Warshak provides additional research on the importance of encouraging overnights with the other parent. We thank CRC member Barbara Steinberg for bringing this article to our attention.
Proponents of overnight restrictions generally cite certain theories and concepts of child development and empirical studies to defend their recommendations. Concerns about the harmful impact of two different nighttime caregivers, or two different settings, are most often voiced in the context of attachment theory (Bowlby 1969, 1973, 1980) and psychoanalytic theories of development (Erikson, 1963, 1968, 1980, Mahler, Pine & Bergman, 1975). Contemporary psychoanalytic theories share the emphasis of the mother's role in early development. It is easy to appreciate how Bowlby's conclusions about maternal deprivation, and subsequent interpretations of his ideas, would lead to a general reluctance to separate infants from the person designated as the psychological parent. Such reluctance would extend to separation at night. But does this theory of child development hold in the court of empirical research?.... According to Michael Lamb (1994), extended separations, including overnights with either parent, usually do not stress infants when they are with the other parent. In terms of day care research, infants who are in paid child care facilities are able to develop and maintain deep and secure attachments to their mothers. There is no reason to suggest that fathers would provide inferior attention and supervision to their child than that of a paid day care worker. Fathers should not be denied access to their own children on these grounds. In addition, the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD) study of Early Child Care con-
ducted an extensive examination of the effects of day care on children. The results derived showed that "There was no significant differences in attachment security related to child-care participation. Even in extensive, early, unstable, or poor-quality care, the likelihood of infants' insecure attachment to mother did not increase, nor did stable or high-quality care increase the likelihood of developing a secure attachment to mother (NICHD Early Child Care Research Network, 1997, p. 875). This research provides firm support for recommending that infants spend extended periods of time with their fathers away from their mother. Don't Ban Overnights in Custody Matters Specifically, fathers should not be banned from being granted access to overnights in custody matters. Gender bias plays a factor in refusing to allow non-primary custody fathers the opportunity to take care of their children overnight. The sex of the parent should definitely not be the primary factor in deciding the specifics of a custody case. Countless studies have proven time and time again that children benefit the most from a relationship when they maintain a solid, involved relationship with both parents following a divorce or separation. All post-divorce custody issues should focus on what is best for the child; therefore they should maximize the opportunity for children to develop and consolidate relationships with both of their parents. According to psychologists, the best way to promote deep attachments is to allow children to inter-
act with parents in a wide variety of contexts. Overnight visits certainly provide a greater range of activities than just a day visit. High quality relationships are best achieved when children experience each parent participating in all aspects of daily life such as morning activities, day care rituals, meals, bathing, and bedtime habits. Overnights are crucial due to the opportunity for a wider range of involvement. By contributing to the establishment and consolidation of the parentchild relationship, this will benefit the child's long-term adjustment. Maccoby and Mnookin (1992) reason, "because our evidence suggests that the probability of a father maintaining a connection with the child over time is greater if there are overnight visits, we believe that visitation should ordinarily be construed to permit overnight stays if that is what the secondary parent desires." In conclusion, blanket restrictions requiring young children to spend every night with the same parent after divorce are inconsistent with current knowledge about the needs and capacities of young children and their parents. In particular, the opinion that children can tolerate sleeping during the day in their father's presence, and in the presence of hired attendants in day care centers, but not at night with their fathers, cannot be said to express a scientific judgement. It reveals a bias often rooted in inaccurate assumptions about early child development. Experts who endorse blanket restrictions cannot provide adequate scientific justification for their opinions. Courts, attorneys, and parents should be aware of such limitations.
Summer 2001 Speak Out For Children
IN THE COMBINED FEDERAL CAMPAIGN, CONTRIBUTE TO THE CHILDREN'S RIGHTS COUNCIL (CRC) We are #1513 in the Children's Charities of America (CCA). Look for CRC's listing in the index of the CFC Brochure, then turn to the page given for CCA's members. You may donate to CRC online at our website at www.gocrc.com The Children's Rights Council works to assure that children of separation and divorce obtain as much emotional and financial support as children of intact marriages. Some of CRC's accomplishments: h Credited with being the organization that convinced Congress, for the first time in history, to provide funds for access/visitation demonstration programs in 1988; h The results of the above 1988 grants were so positive that in the 1996 Welfare Reform Law, Congress provided $10 million a year for all 50 states and jurisdictions to provide access/visitation programs; h Publicized findings in 1998 from Census Bureau and National Center for Health Statistics that the states with the highest amount of joint physical custody in 19891990 had the lowest divorce rates in the subsequent years 19911995; h Publicized findings that children with two parents generally have fewer problems with drugs and crimes than children with only one parent. Obtained changes in attitudes and laws in order to encourage a child's bonding to two parents and extended family; h Promoted the school-based "Banana Splits" program to help children of separation and divorce channel the transition in their lives into stronger academic achievement; h CRC and its chapters established transfer sites for children, parenting education and other programs in MD, VA, IL, NY, NE, OH and Washington, D.C. h Provided assistance to parents and professionals on how to get through the divorce process in the most peaceful, problem-free way, so as to take the stress out of divorce. Money that would be spent on battling between parents is available for the children. CRC only receives funds that you actually designate! The Children's Rights Council is a national non-profit organization at 300 "I" St., NE #401, Washington, D.C. 20002-4389. Phone: 202/547-6227 Fax: 202/546-4272. See our web sites at www.gocrc.com and www.info4parents.com To obtain a copy of our Catalog of Resources, Directory of Parenting Organizations, Affiliation Book, Annual Report
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CRC works to strengthen families through education and advocacy. We favor family formation and family preservation, but if families break up, or are never formed, we work to assure a child the frequent and continuing contact with two parents and extended family the child would normally have during marriage. Our motto is "The Best Parent is Both Parents." For the child's benefit, CRC favors parenting education before marriage, during marriage, and in the event of separation. We work to demilitarize divorce between parents who are involved in marital disputes, substituting mediation for the adversarial process, and providing for emotional and financial child support. We also favor school-based programs for children at risk. There are several ways you can contribute to the Children's Rights Council: h through the Combined Federal Campaign if you work for the federal government at any federal office, post office, or military base; h in the Washington, D.C. and San Francisco Bay Area United Way campaigns; h in the Virginia and Maryland State Employee Campaigns; h if you wish to contribute to CRC through a United Way where we are not listed, please ask your employer if you can designate (write in) the Children's Rights Council; h in corporate campaigns throughout the United States; or h if you wish to contribute directly to CRC, write to CRC, 300 "I" Street N.E., Suite 401, Washington, D.C. 20002-4389. Contributions accepted on Visa, MC, or AMEX credit cards.
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AVAILABLE ON AUDIO CASSETTE 13th National Conference of the Children's Rights Council Shared Parenting It Makes Sense May 3-6, 2001 Bethesda, MD
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The Perspective on Families: How Foundations, Gov't. Agencies and Non-Profit Organizations View Family Issues: Maurice Moore, Teresa Kaiser, Malcolm Smith, Linda Mellgren, Kevin Gallagher, Moderator: David L. Levy, JD (Part 1 of 2) The Perspective on Families: (Part 2 of 2)
ACCESS TRACK: Establishing and Operating a Successful Access Center: Frank Banner, Jr., Terry Cady, Lyn Huerter, Fred Wall, Margaret Wuwert, Moderator: Alfred Ellis ACCESS TRACK: Assisting High/Chronically Conflicted Parents Share Their Children: Kim Boedecker-Frey, Carol Garges
FRIDAY PLENARY SESSION: Parenting After Divorce: Philip M. Stahl, PhD LUNCH: The New American Family: What Was Wrong With the Old One? (Kathleen Parker's Material presented by Barbara F. Steinberg, PhD) CREATIVE WRITING GROUP: Telling Your Story of Loss, Hope and Renewal: Mark Roseman, PhD ADVOCACY: Playing a Responsible Role: Ronald K. Henry, JD SATURDAY PLENARY SESSION: False Allegations of Parental Alienation: Douglas A. Darnall, PhD
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ACCESS TRACK: Why Supervised Visitation? Mary Olesh The International Perspective: CRC Chapters in Africa, Asia, Europe and the UK: · The Disturbing Reality of Parental Abductions, Divorce and Custody in Japan: Walter Benda, Max Meadows · he Little Known Problems of Children and Parents Without Custody in the United Kingdom: Tony Coe The Future of CRC: Questions and Answers: David L. Levy, JD; John L. Bauserman, Jr., JD
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Grandparents Are Parents, Too! Jean T. Castagno Rebuilding the Bond: Pamela Stuart-Mills Hoch Focused Thinking in Parenting: Teaching Children to Think & Solve Problems Successfully: Stanley Posthumus Gender Politics & Shared Parenting: Cathy Young Developments on Capitol Hill That Affect Children & Families: David L. Levy, Teresa Kaiser, Mark Veney Dads and Stepdads Parenting With Moms and Stepmoms: Margorie Engel, PhD (Part 1 of 2) Dads and Stepdads Parenting With Moms and Stepmoms: (Part 2 of 2) Family Ties and Knots: Kat Cooper Financial Child Support: Obligation or Burden? Teresa Kaiser, JD Developmentally Effective Parenting Plans: Philip M. Stahl, PhD Healthy Men, Healthy Fathers, Healthy Families: Edward E. Bartlett, PhD Interstate and International Custody Matters: Where Will a New Administration Take Us? Richard Crouch, JD Parallel Parenting Strategies: Keys for Success in High Conflict Divorces: Richard H. Mikesell
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Generative Parenting: Seeking Peace in the Mediation of Divorce: Mark A. Rogers, PsyD, Jeffery Leving, JD Should Access Be Provided to Kidnappers After Children Have Been Recovered, and If So, Under What Circumstances? Maureen Dabbagh Alienation: How It Feels; What We Should Do About It! Ned Holstein, MD Alienation and Malpractice: A case study
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Caught in the Crossfire: Dispelling Myths About Child Abuse and Custody Cases: Dean Tong In the Best Interests of Children & Families: Judge Larnzell Martin, Judge Woodrow Lewis The Politics of Parenting: Stephen Baskerville, PhD
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Foundations for Parental Alienation: Judicial Restrictions of Shared Parenting / Cost Shares Child Support) Guidelines: Donald Bieniewicz; John Guidubaldi, PhD; R. Mark Rogers (Part 1 of 2) Foundations for Parental Alienation / Cost Shares Child Support Guidelines: (Part 2 of 2) Building Successful Partnerships: Parents The Key to Success: Sue Gatton, National PTA Reunification Success Stories: Douglas A. Darnall, PhD Barbara F. Steinberg, PhD No One Is Immune: A Psychologist's Encounter With the Tyranny of Conventional Wisdom: Robert Davй, PhD Representing Single Custodial Fathers: Jeffery M. Leving, JD, Mark A. Rogers PysD
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Equal Parents' Week September 23September 30, 2001 By Patti Diroff, CRC Equal Parents Week National Coordinator
The objective of Equal Parents' Week is to bring people together who believe that parental rights and responsibilities must be shared equally. The right of both parents to function as a parent, the right of children to be raised and nurtured by both parents, and the right of families to exist and function as a family, are civil and human rights inalienable to all families. This message will be sent from the hearts of families across this country and around the world, who will unite their voices through the simple act of tying purple ribbons. The EPW website can be found at http://members.tripod.com/epweek. This year, the candlelight vigils will be held Tuesday, September 25, 2001 at 8:30 p.m. (as the time occurs in each time zone) to avoid conflicts with Yom Kippur. The theme of the candlelight vigils, "A Moment In Our Hearts, A Moment Of Solidarity" is expressed in the special "5 Candles Reading" for the vigils, which is based on "The Grandparents Holiday Wreath of Love" and can be found at http:/ /members.tripod.com/epweek/candlevigil.html. Two types of candlelight vigils are being held. Persons can choose to hold a public candlelight vigil (usually held outside and/or in a public place). "Home Vigils" are held by lighting a candle in your home for at least 15 min
utes. A "Home Vigil" can be held by anyone, by a single person living alone or with immediate family, and can include as many people as you wish. "Home Vigils" are very easy to do! You don't have to go anywhere or make any arrangements. Just stay home and reserve this special time to focus on the very personal feelings you have for your family, knowing you will be sharing this moment with people all around the world who are joining together to share the same focus and love for their families. Persons who cannot attend a public vigil are urged to hold their own "Home Vigil" to add their voices and strengthen the message of Equal Parents' Week. Complementary Equal Parents' Week buttons are being sent to people who sign up and commit to holding candlelight vigils. In addition to the vigils, other activities can be held as part of Equal Parents' Week, including picnics, social gatherings, gatherings with or without guest speakers, and rallies. Any activity which includes tying and wearing purple ribbons can be used. People who are able to make large banners can also use these to attract public and media attention. "Just Say Yes to Shared Parenting," "Shared Parenting Is About Putting Children First," "Shared Parenting Works When We Put Children First," which promote the JUST SAY YES! campaign are some examples of slogans which help send our message. Sign up links for vigils and activities are available on the Equal Parents' Week website. Please contact the National Coordinator, Patti Diroff, at (909) 591-3689.
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CRC 2nd Annual Training Session October 13 CRC will hold its second annual all day meeting Saturday, October 13, 2001 (9 a.m. to 5 p.m.) for chapters heads, chapter members and members of CRC interested in becoming active in CRC or active in a chapter. Topics: chapter development, grant development, marketing. For those interested, we will have dinner Saturday evening, and have a talk Sunday morning on a topic related to the training. The location will be at a hotel near the Baltimore Washington Airport (BWI). Hotel rooms will be under $85 for one night. The hotel location will be posted on a CRC website, www.gocrc.com by Labor Day, or contact the CRC office. Everyone is welcome. Donors Are Appreciated CRC thanks everyone who contributes to CRC in the charity drive that takes place in all federal government office
s every Fall. CRC is part of Independent Charities of America. We also thank those who contribute to CRC in the Washington, D.C., and San Francisco (Bay Area) United Way campaigns. We also thank those who contribute to CRC through their United Way in some other part of the country, where we are not listed, but where employers may sometimes allow employees to designate CRC. CRC depends on volunteer help and contributions for its existence. If you wish to make your tax-deductible contribution directly to CRC, send it to CRC, 300 I Street, Suite 401, Washington, D.C. 20002.
Summer 2001 Speak Out For Children
Forgive Them Their Debts Excerpted from an article by Cheryl Wetzstein in The Washington Times, June 13, 2001.
"Ray was a teen-age father when he went to jail on a felony charge for 17 years. By the time he was released two years ago, he owed the state of Maryland $14,000 in child support to defray the costs of welfare for his children and their mothers. "Today, Ray, which is not his real name, is part of a pilot program started by Maryland child-support officials to `leverage' his $14,000 debt. "Under the program, Ray had to graduate from a community-based program that teaches job readiness or responsible fatherhood, get a job and make regular child-support payments for six months. "In return, the state erased 25 percent of Ray's debt. "If Ray does this three more times, all his state debt could be gone," said Teresa Kaiser, Maryland's child-support enforcement director. "The Baltimore debt-leveraging program, which will be a year old in July, is being closely watched by state officials and advocates. "Child-support debt is supposed to be unforgivable. Under a federal law
championed by former Sen. Bill Bradley of New Jersey, judges are forbidden from retroactively reducing or forgiving child-support arrears. "While this law was intended to stop judges from unilaterally wiping out debt based on parents' sob stories, it also had the unintended consequence of creating a debt meter that couldn't be stopped. This applies even to parents who are hospitalized for months, given long prison sentences or taken hostage in a foreign country. There is widespread support for finding ways to help parents--mostly fathers-- become responsible for their children. Groups that worked with poor fathers, however, quickly realized that child-support arrears were a major obstacle. "Without a debt-leveraging program, "a lot of guys would go to their graves with arrearages," said James Smith
, a case manager at CFWD. "The Association for Children for Enforcement of Support has been urging states to find ways to offer amnesty for some of the debts owed by noncustodial parents,' said ACES President
Geraldine Jensen. "The states were sort of piling on, billing unwed or absent fathers for the Medicaid-paid costs of their children's births, paternity tests and interest on the debt," she said. "The result was that many young fathers ended up with $10,000 in debt and a lot of them would just run and go underground," she said. "That meant many families didn't get child support." Editor's Note: Debt-forgiveness programs provide crucial outreach efforts to "deadbroke parents," usually poor, unwed fathers. Children need the love and support of both parents. Programs that provide training, support and education to parents in exchange for forgiving arrearages that would probably never be paid anyway --because of the impoverishment of the parents--is a great way to encourage involvement of both parents in the raising of their children, emotionally as well as financially. We thank visionary Maryland Child Support Director Teresa Kaiser for being the first child support director in the country to initiate a federally authorized state debt-forgiveness program.
Letter to the Editor Editor: Clayton Giles, a 14 year old boy from Canada, has walked and ridden his bike from Calgary, Canada to Washington, D.C. in order to increase awareness of the injustice that Family Courts can inflict upon children of divorcing parents. He made stops in several U.S. cities, including cities in New York, Massachusetts, Maryland, Connecticut, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island
, New Jersey, Delaware, and finally Washington, D.C. Clayton began his journey from Calgary at the end of May and was expected to reach Washington by mid-August. You can read all about his trip at http:// legalkids.com/ I urge you to take advantage of this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to share this boy's commitment to children and families. By giving this little boy your support, you will bring valuable publicity to your organization and to the terrible violation of civil liberaties that non-custodial parents and their children suffer. Deborah M. Colerick, Charlotte, NC Page 26 Speak Out For Children Summer 2001
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President Bush Issues National Child's Day Proclamation for 2001
The U.S. is one of the few countries that do not celebrate a National Child's Day. But that may be changing. For the first time, a U.S. President has issued a proclamation declaring that the first Sunday in June is National Child's Day. President Bush signed the proclamation marking Sunday, June 3, 2001, as National Child's Day. CRC and FOCUS, a group based in Florida headed by Mrs. Lee Rechter, are now asking the President to declare Child's Day a permanent, national holiday. "That way, Congress would not have to pass a resolution each year," said Ms. Rechter.
Each year for the past 6 years, either the House or the Senate has passed a onetime resolution. Earlier House resolutions declared Children's Day in October. But for the past three years, Senator Bob Graham (D-FL) has sponsored a Senate resolution declaring that National Child's Day is the first Sunday in June. "This nestles it between Mother's Day and Father's Day, just where it should be," said CRC President David L. Levy. CRC held a press conference on National Child's Day at the National Capital Children's Museum, attended by Washington, D.C. Councilman Harold Brazil,
Lee Rechter, Kristie Schwartz, of Senator Graham's office, Ruth Kidd of the Children's Museum, and CRC officers. Dr. Christine Brooks, a former staffer for Sen. Graham, is helping to make National Child's Day a national Holiday. The way that Mother's Day and Father's Day have been national holidays for years is by presidential proclamation. "Ms. Rechter is the mother of National Child's Day and David L. Levy is the father of National Child's Day," said a Capitol Hill observer. "Both have been working on this project for a long time."
Summer 2001 Speak Out For Children
Bills in Congress
Responsible Fatherhood Act 2001 S. 653 (Senate bill) and H.R. 1300 (House bill). The Responsible Fatherhood Act provides for $77 million in fatherhood programs. $25 million would be for media campaigns, $50 million would be for block grants to the states for fatherhood programs, and $1 million or $2 million would be for a national clearinghouse of information. The media campaigns would include ads on fatherhood during prime time viewing hours. It would be the responsibility for governors of the various states to allocate funds to state agencies, non-profit or faithbased groups to run various programs to encourage marriage and fatherhood. The Senate bill's major sponsor is Sen. Evan Bayh (D-IN), and the House's main sponsor is Rep. Julia Carson (DIN). The bills have bipartisan support, and are expected to be passed by Congress this Fall. CRC college student interns, led by intern Ron Varga, met with Bayh's and Carson's staff to make certain that Safe Haven Child Access Transfer Centers, run by CRC and other organizations, would be eligible for funding. The staff said such programs could be funded by the state under the block grants. Earlier this year, at the request of CRC, Sen. Bayh added a provision to the bill that said, in considering funding, one of the factors should be programs that explain "the benefits of the involvement of both parents in a child's life." The Senate bill was referred to the Senate Finance Committee, (202) 2244515 and the House version was referred to House Ways and Means Committee, (202) 225-3625. Contact your House members and Senators and lend support to the bills. Denial of Passports H.R. 407, introduced by Rep. Robert Andrews (D, NJ), establishes a denial of passports to non-custodial parents
in cases of child support. This bill authorizes the Secretary of State to refuse, revoke, restrict, or limit use of a passport if the applicant or passport holder is a non-custodial parent who is the object of an outstanding State arrest warrant. The warrants are for nonpayment of child support, where the amount in controversy is not less than $10,000. Referred to House Subcommittee on International Operations and Human Rights, phone (202) 225-3345. CRC has asked Rep. Andrews to provide a balancing amendment to this bill to deny passports to custodial parents who have been found to be in violation of any custody or visitation court order. Write to Rep. Andrews stating that parents are sometimes in contempt or other violation of court ordered custody or access, and that he should amend H.R. 407 to provide for denial of passports for this reason. Ask your own representative to introduce such an amendment. Let CRC know the response. Tax Interception H.R. 869, introduced by Rep. Michael N. Castle (R-DE), titled the Child Support Fairness and Tax Interception Act of 2001. This bill amends title IV part D (Child Support and Establishment of Paternity) of the Social Security Act to provide for the use of the tax refund intercept program to collect past-due child support on behalf of children who are not minors. Referred to House Subcommittee on Human Resources, telephone (202) 225-1025. Write to Rep. Castle to explain that sometimes parents will win a court award for another parent's interference with custody or access, and that H.R. 869 should also apply to those unpaid judgments. Write to your own representative asking for such an amendment. Let CRC know the response. Simplified USA Tax Act of 2001 H.R. 86, introduced by Rep. Phil
English (R-PA), provides in Section 5 that a taxpayer shall be allowed alimony and child support deductions for an amount equal to the alimony, child support, or separate maintenance payments paid during the taxpayer's taxable year. Under current law, the custodial parent may claim the $2,000 child exemption. H.R. 86 does not change who can claim the child exemption, but encourages parents to pay child support because it provides some incentive to do so. Write to your representative letting them know that allowing a parent who pays child support to deduct the payment from his/her taxes will encourage the payment of child support . Send a copy of their response to CRC. The address for all House members is House of Representatives
, Washington, D.C. 20515. The address for all Senators is U.S. Senate, Washington, D.C. 20510. The telephone number to reach all members of Congress is (202) 224-3121. Contact Other CRC Members by E-mail Send and receive e-mail from other CRC members around the country. If you are a CRC member, email the following message to Harry Prillaman, CRC Coordinator for Georgia, who is supervising this service. He can be reached at [email protected]
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National Affiliate Organizations and Chapters
International CRC of Great Britain Tony and Christine Coe, coordinators Children's Rights Council of the United Kingdom 38-40 Gloucester Road London, SW7 4QU London, England phone: 011-44-20 7589 9003 fax: 011-44-20 7584 4230 email: [email protected]
website: www.equalparenting.org CRC of Japan Walter Benda P.O. Box 583 Max Meadows, VA 24360 540/637-3799 email: [email protected]
website: www.geocities.com/ crcjapan and David Brian Thomas 4-18-15-903 Kamiki TazawaSetagaya-Ku Tokyo, Japan 156 phone: 011-81-3-5317-0357 CRC of Sierra Leone Yottro Kargbo 3505 Covered Bridge Lane Woodbridge, VA 22192 phone and fax: 703/897-7845 and Esther Kargbo 7 Sanai Abacha Street Freetown, Sierra Leone phone: 011-23-2-2222-8682 National Affiliate Organizations Mothers Without Custody (MW/OC) Jennifer Isham, coordinator website only: http: www/ motherswithoutcustody.org Stepfamily Association of America (SAA) Margorie Engel, Ph.D., president Larry Kallemyn, executive director 650 J Street, Suite 205 Lincoln, Nebraska 68508 402/477-7837 1-800/735-0329 Joint membership in SAA and CRC: $35.00 for the first year Parenting Coalition International, Inc. Belinda Rollins, president 1025 Connecticut Avenue N.W., Suite 6156 Washington, D.C. 20036 phone: 202/530-0849 website: parentingcoalition.org CRC of Great Britain CoMamas Louise Oxhorn and Lynne Ringwood-Oxhorn P.O. Box 231304 Encinitas, CA 92023 Phone: 760/942-4572 email: [email protected]
State Chapters Alaska Gary Maxwell, coordinator CRC of Alaska P.O. Box 92083 Anchorage, AK 99509-2083 phone: 907/277-3980 fax: 907/276-3980 email: [email protected]
Arizona Conrad Greene, coordinator CRC of Arizona P O Box 454 Scottsdale, AZ 85252-0454 phone: 480/970-5903 fax: 480/970-5925 California Patricia Gehlen, coordinator CRC of California P.O. Box 163801 Sacramento, CA 95816-9081 phone and fax: 916/635-2590 email: [email protected]
Colorado Mark Entrekin, coordinator CRC of Colorado 4715 Ranch Circle Colorado Springs, CO 80918-4118 phone: 719/548-8798 fax: 719/597-2218 email: [email protected]
Connecticut Mark Roseman, coordinator CRC of Connecticut 48 Shepards Knoll Drive Hamden, CT 06514 phone: 203/288-7827 fax: 203/281-1425 email: [email protected]
website: www.ctcrc.org Delaware James A. Morning, president CRC of Delaware P O Box 1311 Dover, DE 19901 302/734-8522 email: [email protected]
District of Columbia Frank Banner, coordinator CRC of the District of Columbia Hillcrest Children's Center 1325 "W" Street N.W. 3rd floor Washington, D.C. 20009 phone: 202/232-6100 fax: 202/483-4560 Florida Kris Kline, coordinator CRC of Florida 355 Shore Drive Ellenton, FL 34222 phone: 813/635-0633 fax: 813/620-9068 email: [email protected]
Georgia Harry A. Prillaman, coordinator CRC of Georgia 808 Springharbor Court Woodstock, GA 30188-5509 phone: 678/643-5924 fax: 678/643-5923 email: [email protected]
Illinois Terry Cady, coordinator CRC of Illinois 905 Wayne Avenue Deerfield, IL 60015 phone 847/374-0461 fax: 312/322-3553 email: [email protected]
Indiana Bob Monday, coordinator CRC of Indiana P.O. Box 2348 Indianapolis, IN 46206-2348 phone: 317/685-4656 email: [email protected]
David Dinn, coordinator emeritus Grandparent Rights in New Strength (G.R.I.N.S.) Kay and Ray Berryhill, co-directors 0689 CR 5 Corunna, IN 46730 phone: 219/281-2384
Iowa - See Nebraska/Iowa Kentucky Kevin O'Brien, coordinator Ann Swango, director CRC of Kentucky P. O. Box 534 Florence, KY 41022-0534 phone: 859/647-2235 email: [email protected]
website: www.pacegroup.org Maryland Harvey Walden, coordinator CRC of Maryland 417 Pershing Drive Silver Spring, MD 20910-4254 301/588-0262 email: [email protected]
website: http:// members.tripod.com/~mdcrc/ Rob and Sandra Snow, chairs CRC of Greater Baltimore 2 West 39th Street Baltimore, MD
21218 phone and fax: 410/889-9404 email: [email protected]
Massachusetts Carolyn Brumber, coordinator 16 Union Street Holiston, MA 01746 phone: 508/429-5282 e-mail: [email protected]
Steve Carrier, president CRC of Massachusetts 511 Main Street P.O. Box 904 Sturbridge, MA 01566 phone:508/347-5960 Fax: 508/347-9870 Email: [email protected]
George Kelly, chairman Concerned Fathers of Massachusetts, Inc. P O Box 2768 Springfield, MA 01101-2768 phone: 413/736-7432 fax: 413/732-3867 Michigan Barbara Toth, coordinator CRC of Michigan P O Box 653 Edmore, MI 48829-0653 517/427-5774 Minnesota Bruce Kaskubar, coordinator CRC of Minnesota 5905 Chateau Road N.W. Rochester, MN 55901 phone and fax: 507/289-5745 (call before faxing) email: [email protected]
Missouri Scott Field, chair CRC of Eastern Missouri P.O. Box 220661 Kirkwood, MO 63122 314/963-4668 alt. phones Scott 314/838-7092 Mark Holdenried 314/7721169 email: [email protected]
website: http://hometown.aol.com/ crceasternmo/myhomepage/ index.html Jim Moore, president CRC of Southwestern Missouri 619 E. Silsby Springfield, MO 65807phone: 417/889-2121 email: [email protected]
Nebraska/Iowa Lyn and William Huerter, coordinators Kevin Boston, president CRC of Nebraska P O Box 45387 Omaha, NE 68145-0387 402/330-3353 (voice and fax) email: [email protected]
website: www.htmp.net/oma New Jersey Eric Purasson, president New Jersey Council for Children's Rights (NJCCR) P O Box 195 Old Bridge, NJ 08857-0195 phone: 201/434-7938 email: [email protected]
website: www.njccr.org New York Rafee Kamaal and Elizabeth Schnee, co-presidents CRC of New York City 4 West 105th Street New York, NY 10025 hotline: 212/431-7724 212/864-0318 email: [email protected]
Marlin Pierce, CRC of Albany 13 Campagna Drive Albany, NY 12205 phone 518/459-8474 North Carolina/South Carolina Fred Wall, Jr. coordinator 4701 Wrightsville Avenue, Building #1 Suite 1 Wilmington, NC 28403 phone: 910/350-0688 fax: 910/350-0844 email: [email protected]
Dan Carrigan, Director Center for Children of Separation and Divorce 4950 Park Road Charlotte, NC 28209 704/522-1331 Ohio Margaret Wuwert, coordinator CRC of Ohio 4069 West Sylvania Avenue Toledo, OH 43623 phone: 419/473-8955 toll free at 1-866-473-8957 email: [email protected]
Or contact: Kevin O'Brien, director CRC of Southern Ohio P O Box 8805 Cincinnati, OH 45208 phone: 513/624-7223 fax: 513/624-3703 email: [email protected]
website: www.pacegroup.org James Welty, president CRC of Northeast Ohio 2804 E. Center Stgreet North Kingsville, OH 44068 ophone: 440/224-0694 Oregon Roy Nolan, coordinator CRC of Oregon P O Box 2095 Portland, OR 97208 phone: 503/232-8630 fax: 503/233-9390 Pennsylvania Michael Nieland, M.D. president CRC of Pittsburgh 1400 Inverness Avenue Pittsburgh, PA 15217 412/621-0222
The email address for Family Law
Attorney John L. Bauserman, Jr., CRC Board Chairman, is [email protected]
CRC General Counsel Michael L. Oddenino's email address is [email protected]
His website is www.oanglaw.com
Rita A. Jones, president Bill Clemens, treasurer CRC of Philadelphia P.O. Box 11413 Philadelphia, PA 19111 phone: 215/844-2372 Kurt Krusen CRC of Harrisburg/Capitol Region 15 Beaver Road Camp Hill, PA 17011 phone: 717/763-0673 fax: 717/763-7183 South Carolina-see North Carolina Tennessee David Courson, coordinator CRC of Tennessee 2120 Griffintown Road White Bluff, TN 31708-5207 phone and fax: 615/952-2498 email: [email protected]
Texas Diana Buffington, coordinator CRC of Texas 18959 Dallas Parkway, #723 Dallas, TX 75287 phone: 214/485-1518 fax: 214/630-1143 email: [email protected]
website: community.dallasnews.com/dmn/ crctx Children's Rights Coalition (affiliate) P,.O. Box 12961 Capitol Station Austin, TX 78711-2961 fax: 215/499-8056 email: [email protected]
Vermont Contact CRC office Virginia Murray Steinberg, president CRC of Virginia, Richmond chapter 9244 Royal Grant Drive Mechanicsville, VA 23116 phone: 804/559-7090 fax: 804/559-7072 email: [email protected]
Paul Robinson, president Fathers United for Equal Rights and Women's Coalition P O Box 1323 Arlington, VA 22210-1323 phone: 703/451-8580 fax: 703/451-9321 email: [email protected]
Washington State Jamaica Filgo CRC of Washington 10011 33rd Avenue, S.E., Apt. A Everett, WA 98208 phone: 425/379-9666 email: [email protected]
West Virginia Ginger Thompson McDaniel, CRC of West Virginia 109 North Arthur Drive Charleston, WV 25312 phone: 304/744-6534 fax: 304/744-8657 email: [email protected]
Wisconsin contact CRC office
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